What is LOVE?

Many people believe love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. No wonder so many people are single. An excerpt from "Head to Heart."


1. Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.
2. LOVE IS A CHOICE

If love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen -- you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily.
3.By focusing on the good, you can love almost anyone

Now that you're feeling so warmly toward the entire human race, how can you deepen your love for someone? The way God created us, actions affect our feelings most. For example, if you want to become more compassionate, thinking compassionate thoughts may be a start, but giving tzedaka (charity) will get you there. Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving -- and that means giving.

While most people believe love leads to giving, the truth (as Rabbi Eliyahu Dessler writes in his famous discourse on loving kindness) is exactly the opposite: Giving leads to love.
4. THE MORE YOU GIVE, THE MORE YOU LOVE

Kill The Radio

-fragment 2-
after the last song finished, we changed stations,
still listening to the beating of our hearts counting out our uncertainty;
one silly story after another, with only empty chatter in between

the same song again and again, the same person, left alone in a corner of the room-
counting out one sad moment after another, wearily you measured the passing hours
and how far we still had to travel.
outside the rain fell.
the same monotonous voice,which would not keep quiet.

tomorrow, as always, we will meet again, even before you awake.
we will meet again. life is built from many wounds
and many sorrows, they help you not to choose
when you have no choice, somehow, the eyes always see
what they pretend not to see ; the ears
always hear what they pretend not to hear.

after the first song finished, we turned off the radio and enjoyed the silence.
it was easier than staring at the reality
wide-awake all around us; as we waited
for dishonest hands to stitch the shreds together again.